As the year comes to a close I reflect on our family’s one word for 2018 which was simplify. We chose simplify because we felt that our lives became too hectic. We needed to slow down and reflect on what we were doing and how what we were doing affected us and what we wanted to accomplish. Simplifying did not mean that we became bored and did nothing, we were still spontaneous remember Zach Brown Concert?!?! We just decided as a couple that instead of agreeing to do something and then telling the other person we would say, “Let me ask Erin/Charley and I’ll get back to you?” This allowed us to take a breath and see how the other was feeling and if it was something that we wanted to do we would do it and if not we wouldn’t. This had a great impact on Erin and I’s health we were not as stressed because we had talked out what we were doing and found there were very few things we felt we had to do. This also indirectly lead to other improvements especially in communication because we talked out everything before we committed to it. This allowed us to let each other know how the other was feeling and also talk out why we wanted to do it. The communication aspect has been especially great for our relationship. Part of the deal was that we were not to agree because we thought that’s what the other wanted we had to be honest and open with each other. We learned that we could be raw with each other and that it was OK. The one-word technique really worked for us in 2018 so we are going to continue that into 2019. The 2019 word for the Peters family is positive. We chose positive because that is the type of people we want to be and the type of people that we want to surround ourselves with. Erin and I both believe that there is enough negativity in this world and that we do not need to contribute to that. I have made a pledge to unfollow anyone on my timelines that is negative. We are expecting twins in March and I want to bring them into a household that is positive and grateful. Part of being positive is being grateful for what you have.
Last night Erin and I watched Jack Ryan on Prime Videos and one line that stuck out to me was from the bad guy, Tony, that was helping Jack in Turkey. Jack did not like that they needed him to help them because he ran a brothel. Tony told Jack, “You see me as the bad guy and you are the good guy, but maybe if I was born in a nice city in America, like Cincinnati, I could be a good guy too. Geography is destiny, my friend, the world is the kiln and we are the clay.” This struck us and Erin and I looked at each other and both agreed that Tony was 100% correct, we got to be Americans because we were lucky and should feel blessed to have received that gift. It is my job to make sure that my children understand that they are being born into the greatest country in the world. When they work hard they have a chance to be whatever they want to be, but every day they wake up they need to be grateful that they were given an opportunity that millions of other kids around the world would die to have. 2019 is going to be the year of positivity for the Peters’ family and I encourage you to be as positive each day as you can. Smile at people, say hello or good morning to perfect strangers, hold the door for people, or pass out a compliment to someone. You never know what someone else is going through and what a small act of kindness can do for that person.
On Christmas Eve Erin and I went to church at St. Raphael in Bay Village. Fr. Tim gave one of the greatest most powerful homilies that I have ever heard. He showed a 4 minute and 30-second video about these guys singing “The Little Drummer Boy” at a pediatric cancer hospital. If you know what the song is about, it’s about a little poor boy who plays his drum for the king because that is all he has to give him. When the video was done Fr. Tim walked around with a big board that said, “What is your drum?” This went hand in hand with One Word for 2019, our drum is positivity.
Next week we have another ultrasound as we approach 26 weeks Saturday the 12th of January. Unfortunately, I will miss that one as we will have been back to school for just a couple days and I can’t miss since we are coming off of break. Over break, my father in law Mark Cunningham and I painted the nursery, alabaster which is just a cleaner white than it was when it first got painted. It took about 6 hours, we started about 9 am and finished around 3 pm. Thank goodness for Mark, as you can probably figure out I am not very handy, so thankfully he is. He has helped me with numerous projects around the house, in fact, if we do not call him first to help he gets about half pissed off at us, it’s kinda funny. I couldn’t have asked for a better father in law he helps me around the house and is a good drinking buddy we like Manhattans. He is retiring this year and I can’t think of a guy that deserves it more. Although he may want to rethink that as I think his daughters are going to keep him busy during retirement.
Let’s make 2019 the best yet! Be positive, grateful, and the best version of you. Here is to a fun, exciting 2019, Love you guys!